Affirmation applications

When One Door Closes Another Door Opens

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One of my favorite affirmations is “When one door closes, another door opens.” I love this affirmation so much, thatI used it as the title for my first meditation in the book Words That Heal. Here is the meditation in it’s entirety, along with the healing affirmations that accompany it.

Douglas Bloch, http://affirmationsheal.com

When One Door Closes, Another Door Opens

When one door closes, another door opens. Patience, perseverance and persistence.

There comes a time along the spiritual journey when something we cherish must come to an end. Perhaps a meaningful relationship is terminated. Perhaps some opportunity we sought suddenly becomes unavailable. Whatever the circumstances, we feel shut out from a good that we desired.

When this occurs, do not despair, for the Infinite has not forgotten you. You have experienced loss for one reason and one reason only—so that you may receive an even greater good.

Nature abhors a vacuum. What is true in the physical world has its parallel in the spiritual world. You can’t release something without gaining something in return. The universe longs to fill your void, replacing sadness with joy, loss with gain, death with rebirth.

What then is your task when a door is closed before you? First, release your attachment to the way it was, or the way you wished it to be. Your Higher self has prepared a far greater gift for you. Then affirm to yourself, “When one door closes another door opens. I expectantly look forward to the good that awaits me.”

Be patient, for it will come in the twinkling of an eye.

Affirmations

1. I release the past and eagerly look toward the good that awaits me.

2. I release my prior expectations and eagerly look toward the good that awaits me.

3. I have faith that I will be guided to my next step.

4. Although I grieve for what I lost, I have faith that a greater good lies before me.

5. A new door in my life stands open before me.

6. Your own

Words To Consider

They that sow in tears shall reap in joy.

Psalm 126.5

Best Affirmations for Following Your Heart

Consider the following story of misplaced priorities. While hiking in the wilderness, I met a man whose T-shirt carried the following message: “He who dies with the most toys, wins.”

As I pondered those words, I was sure that the author meant the opposite of what he said. No one on his death bed ever stated, “I wish I had spent more time at the office.” We were put on this earth not to accumulate “toys,” but to reap the gifts of the spirit.  These gifts come to us when we dedicate our lives to something greater than ourselves-a path of service in the world, the raising of a loving family, the creation of beauty through art, or any passion that inspires one. 

Having lived in this manner, you can look back over your  life with a real sense of fulfillment. By following the path of peace, love and joy, you will discover your true treasure-one that transcends death itself. 

 He who dies, having followed his heart, wins.

Affirmations for Following Your Heart

1. Joy is my compass. 

2. As I follow the path of my heart, I discover  my true treasure.

3. I release my unnecessary attachments to people, things, or situations in the world.

4. My spiritual growth is  my top priority.

5. When I am being true to the highest and best in me, the rest of my life falls into place.

6. Create our own 

Words To Consider

“Lay not up for yourselves treasures on earth
where moth and dust doth corrupt,
where thieves break through and steal; 
but lay up treasures in heaven …
 for where your treasure is,
there will be your heart also.”

Matthew 6:19-21

Best Affirmations for Anger Management

One important application of affirmations is using affirmations for anger management. When anger is not felt and expressed in a healthy way, it gets inappropriately directed towards others resulting in aggressive behavior, or it is turned inward resulting in wimpy behavior.

Fortunately, there is an alternative–being assertive. When you are assertive, you state your feelings, thoughts and wishes and stand up for your rights without violating the rights of others. One does this does this by using “I think,” “I feel,” and “I want ” statements. Here are some affirmations that will give you permission to express your anger in a healthy way.

 Affirmations for Giving Yourself Permission to Express Anger

I have a right to assert myself.

I can express my anger in a respectful way.

I express my anger without shaming the person.

I use “I” statements to express my displeasure.

I get angry at the behavior, rather than the person.

 

Affirmations Responding to Provocation 

Affirmations are a wonderful tool to work with anger when we feel provoked, because of this truth: Angry words and actions arise from angry thoughts and feelings. Here are specific affirmations you can say to yourself that can change your thinking if you are on the verge of losing it.

Before the Provocation

I can notice when I am becoming angry.

I can remember to count to ten and take deep breaths.

I can feel my anger and still stay in control.

I can take a break and stay in control.

I can talk things out with other people.

 

During the Provocation

I notice that I am becoming angry.

I am controlling my anger by changing my anger-triggering thoughts.

I am counting to ten.

I am remembering to breathe deeply.

I can take a break if I need to.

I am handling this well.

I am doing it!

 

After the Provocation

I was able to be angry without exploding.

I remembered to use my affirmations.

It feels great to handle my anger.

I’m proud of myself.

 

Getting It Right the Second Time

Unfortunately, we do not always express our anger skillfully. It is easy to have our buttons pushed by a child, spouse, parent, etc. Fortunately, when we lose control, we can  work to get it right the second time.  Here are some positive words that you can say to yourself:

Affirmations for Staying in Control the Second Time

I lost control and I am sorry.

Next time, I will notice that I am getting angry sooner.

I will choose a different way to respond. 

I will remember to stop, relax and think before I act.

I am responsible for my anger.

 

Affirmations for Making Amends

I can admit it when I make a mistake.

When I apologize to others, I help to lessen the affects of the anger.

I forgive myself for my unskillful behavior. 

I am working hard to stop this type of behavior.

Making mistakes and learning from them is part of being human.

I can do better next time.

 

I wish you the best in using affirmations to skillfully deal with anger. If you have any questions, you can email me at douglasbloch@gmail.com

 

Affirmations Helped an Olympic Skater to Land Her Jumps

Gracie GoldAs the Olympics have just concluded, I wanted to share a story on how affirmations helped an Olympic skater to land her jumps. As reported in the New York Times, it was the short program and Gracie Gold, the American national skating champion was warming up. She could feel her legs start to tingle before she skated, a hint that they might betray her. Then the nervousness began.

On Gracie’s opening jump, a triple-triple combination, she landed her first jump with difficulty. Then a thought rushed into her head. “Is this my Olympic moment?” she recalled saying to herself. “I’m going to be on my butt?” She quickly told herself no. She fought for and landed her second triple.

Then, during her double axel, her body was off balance as it flew through the air. Her negative self-talk  piped up again and tried to discourage her. But Gracie countered with a perfect affirmation. “I’ve come too far not to land this stupid double axel,” she told herself. “I’m going to land it with a smile.” And that was what she did.

Gold finished fourth on the short program and fourth overall. Not bad for her first Olympics.

Keeping a positive mental attitude was a key in the victories of other Olympic athletes. Elite athletes athletes know that their mental preparation and mental toughness are as important, if not more important, than their physical conditioning. Affirmations are a wonderful way to keep their “eyes on the prize” and keep those negative voices at bay. 

 

Best Affirmations for Quitting Smoking

One area that I would like to share with you has to do with affirmations for quitting smoking. I have worked with a number of smokers in the affirmations workshops I have taught.The simplest and most powerful nonsmoking affirmation is simply, “I am a nonsmoker.” But the real power of it comes with using the affirmation to uncover those unconscious beliefs that are keeping the person smoking.

In the page on this website called, Using Affirmations to Uncover Negative Beliefs, ” I introduced a two-column method that one can use to uncover any unconscious beliefs that may be blocking the expression of the affirmation. An aspiring professional golfer used this method to create an affirmation to heal her smoking habit. This is what occurred as she wrote down the affirmation and listened for the response

Conscious Mind:

I am a nonsmoker.

I am a nonsmoker.

 

I am a nonsmoker

I am a nonsmoker.

What Comes Up:

I’ll gain wait.

It’s one of the few pleasures I still have left.

It’s too hard to stop,

Smoking is an excusing that prevents me from giving 100% to life.

At this point, the woman bolted upright and exclaimed, “Where did that come from?!” Suddenly she realized that the real issue was not her smoking, but her fear of functioning at full capacity. To get to the root of that fear, she created a new affirmation, “I am now giving 100% to life.” This is what followed.

Conscious Mind:

I am now giving 100% to life.

I am now giving 100% to life.

I am now giving 100% to life..

What Comes Up:

I’m afraid I’ll fall short.

I’m not good enough.

Nothing I ever do is right.

When she finished, I asked her if she had ever been criticized as a child. “Everything I did was put down. I was never right.” she replied.  Here then, was the problem. Her fear of criticism and disapproval was the true cause of her lack of participation in life. Smoking was merely a symptom.

The significance of this type of breakthrough cannot be overstated.  Like peeling the layers of an onion, the affirmation-dialogue process allows one to go deeper and deeper  until the core of the problem is at last revealed.

I encourage you to use the affirmation-dialogue process  to  bring your most deeply held assumptions about life to the light of day where they can be transmuted into new beliefs. Here are some  nonsmoking affirmations you can use with this technique.

I am a nonsmoker.

I have successfully quit smoking.

My lungs are strong and vibrant.

I am breathing freely and deeply.

I love running (cycling, swimming, hiking, etc. Use any aerobic activity).

I am able to release old habits.

Every day, in every way,  I am  adopting new healthy habits.

Every day, in every way, I am getting better and better.

I am now living a smoke-free life.

I enjoy living a smoke-free life.

Positive Self-Talk Helps Olympians

Recently, Oregon Public Broadcasting highlighted Olympic athletes’ use of mental skills training, including positive self-talk, to help “boost performance.” Mental skills coach and and professor of exercise science and sports psychology at Pacific Lutheran University Colleen Hacker works with the US men and women’s hockey teams on mental toughness, positive self-talk, concentration training, pre-performance routines and imagining success using all senses.

The good news is, these techniques are appropriate for everyone. She gives this example of positive self-talk: “Let’s say a soccer player shot and missed the goal. Positive self talk would be, ‘Keep shooting. Keep putting pressure on the keeper. I’ll eventually get it.’” When practiced, this is a tool that can improve outcomes for anything any of us would like to accomplish.

For more information, read the full article here, see my book Positive Self-Talk for Children or visit my website www.healingfromdepression.com.

Best Affirmations for Practicing Simplicity

People sometimes ask me, “What are the best affirmations for practicing simplicity?” Although we try to make it complex, the essence of life is simplicity. Being a good parent to your children, having a loving relationship with your partner, feeling needed by others—it is these fundamental requirements for love and appreciation that nurture the human spirit.

The theme of simplicity is repeated over and over in the great spiritual teachings. Jesus tells us that “unless you become as little children, you cannot enter the kingdom of God.” To receive the truth, we must make ourselves like a child—open, accepting and trusting. Too often, however, we get lost in the hectic pace of modern life and lose touch with our real priorities.

Look at your own life. Has it become overly complex? Have you found yourself burdened by too many possessions or responsibilities? Take a deep breath and ask yourself, “What steps can I take to reduce the clutter so that I may live simply and joyously?”

Think how little it takes to lift up your spirits—a smile from your child, an unexpected day of sunny weather, a cold drink on a hot afternoon. As you learn to simplify your life, you will experience a freedom of the soul and lightness of heart. These priceless gifts are yours when you learn to focus on what is truly essential.

 Affirmations

 1. It’s a gift to be simple; it’s a gift to be free.

 2. I follow my heart wherever it takes me.

 3. I release all extra baggage from my life.

 4. I feel light and joyous

 5. I take delight in the simplest of things; even the ordinary gives me pleasure.

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Words to Consider

 Our life is fritted away by detail … Simplify, simplify.” -Thoreau

For more affirmations and meditations for daily life, read Words That Heal, available in paperback or now as an ebook. 

Using Affirmations as a Form of Prayer

Many years ago I came across the idea of using affirmations as a form of prayer developed by the practitioners of Religious Science called affirmative prayer. Affirmative prayer combines the power of affirmations with the practice of prayer. When you pray using affirmative prayer, you are not asking something outside of yourself to give you something. Instead, you are claiming your good as if it has already come to you. Hence, affirmative prayer, like affirmations, is always stated in the present tense.

Here are the five steps of affirmative prayer, as described on the Science of Mind website:

Affirmative Prayer

Science of Mind uses a five-step affirmative prayer called spiritual mind treatment. The five steps are:

1. Recognition—know that God is all there is.

2. Unification—know that you are one with God.

3. Declaration—state your word for the circumstance you want to manifest.

4. Thanksgiving—give thanks for your word being acted upon by the Law of Mind.

5. Release—“And so it is!”

There is no beseeching to or urge to compel an outside entity in spiritual mind treatment.  As Ernest Holmes states in The Science of Mind:

Effective mental treatment is propelled by a consciousness of love and a realization that the Creative spirit is always at work….A treatment should be given in a calm, expectant manner and with a deep inner conviction of its reality, without any fear or any sense that the human mind must make it effective. The work is effective because the Law is always in operation.

People who practice affirmative prayer on a daily basis have reported profound changes in their lives. For example, when I was in the depths of a life-threatening depressive episode, I composed an affirmative prayer that I shared with the twelve members of my support team and asked them to say it with me for thirty days. Here is the affirmative prayer I shared with them.

With help from God, I am reborn to a new life. I have learned the lessons that the anxiety and depression came to teach and thus have fully and freely released these symptoms from my body/mind. They are replaced by inner peace, emotional stability, vitality, wholeness, wellness and joy. My brain chemistry is stabilized and in perfect balance. I am healed and made whole. Thank you spirit for healing.

This prayer may have saved my life, because seventy-two hours after the group and I started reciting it, my symptoms began to lift. Within ninety days I experienced a full healing. Try affirmative prayer for yourself, and let me know your results.

 

 

Affirmations for Weight Loss

As people begin to to make their resolutions for the new year, I thought I would share two of my favorite affirmations for weight loss. This seems to be a top priority as people set their goals for the months ahead.

The affirmations I am going to share were developed by myself during the period of 2010 and 2012 when I managed to lose 40 pounds by making basic changes in my lifestyle habits. I typed these affirmations out on a piece of paper, and below the text I placed a photo of myself from a time when I was at my ideal weight (185 pounds).  Then I would read the affirmations out loud while looking at the picture of myself. This combines the power of the spoken word with the process of creative visualization.

In addition, as I repeated my affirmation and looked at the image of myself with my ideal weight, I  imagined that  I was looking at myself in the mirror RIGHT NOW. This brings the experience into the present tense, which is where the power to change resides.

Here is my first affirmation.

By making incremental changes in my patterns of eating and physical activity, I gradually and responsibly lose weight until I reach and sustain my ideal weight and waistline. Thank you spirit.

And here is my second affirmation.

I am lean, I am strong, I am fit, I am flexible. I eat high nutrient, low energy dense foods which give me the feeling of fullness and satiety. As a result I burn more calories than I take in, and my body attains and sustains its ideal weight and waistline.

Thank you spirit for my renewed health and vitality. I truly am younger next year.

Try these out for yourself. I think you will find them helpful.

 

Best Affirmations for New Year’s Resolutions

As we begin 2014, you might ask yourself, “What are the best affirmations for the new year?” The answer to this question is that any affirmations that you decide to use to set your New Year’s resolutions is a good affirmation. Affirmations are a wonderful way to express your new year’s resolutions. Instead of saying, “I wish I could lose more weight,” or I plan to save more money,” an affirmation expresses your goals in the present tense, as if you already have them.  Here is a very simple process that will help you to create your affirmations for the New Year.

1) Pick an area of your life that needs healing

The topic of your affirmation can involve a relationship, your health, work, finances, peace of mind, etc. For an example, let’s choose the area of relationships. Perhaps you have been carrying around some old anger that you are now ready to release. 

2) Decide what you want to occur in that area of your life. What would it feel like if that part of your life were healed?

In our example, you probably want to let go of the anger and experience peace and forgiveness. 

3) State the desired outcome in the first person and present tense

As you write your words, keep in mind the following points: Thus, you say “I am filled with peace” instead of “I will become filled with peace.”

4) Experience how it feels. Once you have written your affirmation, say it to yourself a few times and listen to your response. When you have found a good affirmation, you will feel a sense of rightness in your gut.  

5) Repeat your affirmation each day. Say it to yourself, say it out loud, or write it down. Repetition is the mother of learning. When you repeat an affirmation, it impresses its thought pattern on your mind and transforms your previously held beliefs.

6) Turn the final outcome over to a higher power.  For this reason, I always conclude my affirmations with the following statement: This or something better now manifests for me in totally satisfying and harmonious ways for the highest good of all concerned. This way, I know that my will and the will of the universe are aligned.

I hope this was helpful to you. Let’s get off to a good start in 2014 by clarifying exactly what we want and stating that goal as a clear and concise affirmation.