When One Door Closes Another Door Opens

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One of my favorite affirmations is “When one door closes, another door opens.” I love this affirmation so much, thatI used it as the title for my first meditation in the book Words That Heal. Here is the meditation in it’s entirety, along with the healing affirmations that accompany it.

Douglas Bloch, http://affirmationsheal.com

When One Door Closes, Another Door Opens

When one door closes, another door opens. Patience, perseverance and persistence.

There comes a time along the spiritual journey when something we cherish must come to an end. Perhaps a meaningful relationship is terminated. Perhaps some opportunity we sought suddenly becomes unavailable. Whatever the circumstances, we feel shut out from a good that we desired.

When this occurs, do not despair, for the Infinite has not forgotten you. You have experienced loss for one reason and one reason only—so that you may receive an even greater good.

Nature abhors a vacuum. What is true in the physical world has its parallel in the spiritual world. You can’t release something without gaining something in return. The universe longs to fill your void, replacing sadness with joy, loss with gain, death with rebirth.

What then is your task when a door is closed before you? First, release your attachment to the way it was, or the way you wished it to be. Your Higher self has prepared a far greater gift for you. Then affirm to yourself, “When one door closes another door opens. I expectantly look forward to the good that awaits me.”

Be patient, for it will come in the twinkling of an eye.

Affirmations

1. I release the past and eagerly look toward the good that awaits me.

2. I release my prior expectations and eagerly look toward the good that awaits me.

3. I have faith that I will be guided to my next step.

4. Although I grieve for what I lost, I have faith that a greater good lies before me.

5. A new door in my life stands open before me.

6. Your own

Words To Consider

They that sow in tears shall reap in joy.

Psalm 126.5

Best Affirmations for Guidance

In this post, I want to talk about affirmations for guidance. The times they are a changing. During this period of uncertainty, many of us are seeking reliable ways to receive guidance and direction in our lives. But with our familiar signposts in chaos and turmoil, there is only one certain way to obtain the guidance we seek—go within.

 In seeking guidance, you are really asking the universe to “show you the way.” A lovely way to request this direction is to affirm , “I want to do what God wants me to do” This statement will cause your higher wisdom to communicate its intention to you. Then, your task is simple—listen to and follow its instructions.

 Sometimes what you receive will not always be what you (your ego) wanted to hear. Don’t let this bother you; your intuition, not your ego, knows what’s best for you. Many times, your instructions will not “make sense” at the time. Again, don’t be concerned; your intuition doesn’t function through logic, but through what “feels” right.

 When you receive guidance, you will probably be told to take a single step. Rather than being shown the final out-come, you will be guided each step along the way. This is where you must exercise your faith. Trust that you are being lead in the right direction and that everything will work out. The universe wants you to succeed. The universe wants the best for you.

 As you follow this procedure, your guidance will become clearer and more defined. While the outer world continues to rock to and fro, you will retain that inner calm and security that comes from following that Higher Power within you.

Affirmations 

1. I want to do what the Universe wants me to do.

2. I want to do what my Higher Self wants me to do. 

3. The Divine Presence fills my body, mind, heart and soul. From this place of higher knowing, I see all things clearly.

4. God’s wisdom illumines me, casting light on my path. 

5. All things are working together for good in my life.

6. Your own 

Words To Consider

“Instead of asking Him to give  the things for which we pray,
All that we need to ask from God is this:
Show us the way.”

James Bowman

 

The Lord is nigh to all who call upon him, to all who call upon him in truth.

Psalm 145:18

 

An Affirmation For Getting Through a Depressive Episode

 I am writing to share an affirmation for getting through a depressive episode that was a lifesaver for me. Years ago I was experiencing a hellish episode of agitated depression. My pain was not only unbearable, it felt like it was never going to end. Just when I was about to give up, I remembered an affirmation that someone had given me, “When going to hell, don’t stop!”

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   What does this mean? It means, that because nothing lasts forever, if you keep persevering, eventually something will shift and you can emerge from the dark night of the soul. So, if you find yourself going through the valley of the shadow of death, remember–you don’t have to pitch your tent there. If you keep moving forward, one day at a time, and ask for help, you will come out the other side. I can’t tell you how the resurrection will happen, but I can assure you that it will. Remember, the darkest hour is always just before the dawn.

    When at last I emerged from my hell of depression in the fall of 1997, I decided to write a memoir about how I survived. And the title that came to me, is When Going Through Hell .. Don’t Stop! The book is a survival guide for anyone, not just for those who are depressed, but for anyone who finds himself in unbearable pain that appears to have no end. If you or a loved one could use the support that this book brings, you can can take a look at a copy by clicking below. 

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  In the meantime, I leave you with these words taken from the the book’s last page:

 

If you are on the edge of the abyss, don’t jump. 
If you are going through hell, don’t stop. 
As long as you are breathing, there is hope. 
As long as day follows night, there is hope. 
Nothing stays the same forever.  
Set an intention to heal, 
reach out for support,
and you will find help.
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    I wish you the best in your mental health recovery and I hope that you will consider exploring the book, When Going Through Hell .. Don’t Stop! If you would like to watch You Tube video in which I talk about my experience, please click on the above image.

                        Douglas Bloch

                       http://healingfromdepression.com

Best Affirmations for Finding Your Purpose

Tulip fieldHow can you go about finding your purpose? Everyone has a dream. Everyone has a purpose or mission, something specific he is called to do. You are on this earth for a reason. Although you can temporarily hide from yourself, you can never lose your connection to your purpose. It is always with you, beckoning to be uncovered. You just need to listen and let it speak to you.  

When you do decide to follow your dream, be prepared for resistance. The old beliefs and messages from the past that say it cannot be done will come rushing to the surface. How will you respond to these voices of fear and doubt? Will you  allow them  to immobilize you? Or will you tell them who is in charge and move forward in spite of your fears?

Despite the objections of everyone around her, Augusta pursued her dream of becoming an Olympic track athlete. At first a series of disappointing performances seemed to confirm the predictions of her family and friends. But then she won a race. The improvement continued until a number of first-place finishes gave her a spot on the Olympic team.

No matter what the obstacles, choose to be true to  your purpose and let it guide and direct your way. Your destiny is beckoning you. It is time to heed the call.

Affirmations

 1. I am aligned with my higher purpose. 

 2. I am in touch with my destiny.

 3. I hear my inner voice and heed the call.

 4. I am living a life of purpose and passion.

 5. I follow my dreams and make them reality.

 6. Create your own 

Words To Consider

“The reasonable man encounters circumstances and adapts himself to them.
The unreasonable man persists in trying to adapt circumstances to himself.
All progress depends upon the unreasonable man.”

George Bernard Shaw

Best Affirmations for Following Your Heart

Consider the following story of misplaced priorities. While hiking in the wilderness, I met a man whose T-shirt carried the following message: “He who dies with the most toys, wins.”

As I pondered those words, I was sure that the author meant the opposite of what he said. No one on his death bed ever stated, “I wish I had spent more time at the office.” We were put on this earth not to accumulate “toys,” but to reap the gifts of the spirit.  These gifts come to us when we dedicate our lives to something greater than ourselves-a path of service in the world, the raising of a loving family, the creation of beauty through art, or any passion that inspires one. 

Having lived in this manner, you can look back over your  life with a real sense of fulfillment. By following the path of peace, love and joy, you will discover your true treasure-one that transcends death itself. 

 He who dies, having followed his heart, wins.

Affirmations for Following Your Heart

1. Joy is my compass. 

2. As I follow the path of my heart, I discover  my true treasure.

3. I release my unnecessary attachments to people, things, or situations in the world.

4. My spiritual growth is  my top priority.

5. When I am being true to the highest and best in me, the rest of my life falls into place.

6. Create our own 

Words To Consider

“Lay not up for yourselves treasures on earth
where moth and dust doth corrupt,
where thieves break through and steal; 
but lay up treasures in heaven …
 for where your treasure is,
there will be your heart also.”

Matthew 6:19-21

Best Affirmations for Anger Management

One important application of affirmations is using affirmations for anger management. When anger is not felt and expressed in a healthy way, it gets inappropriately directed towards others resulting in aggressive behavior, or it is turned inward resulting in wimpy behavior.

Fortunately, there is an alternative–being assertive. When you are assertive, you state your feelings, thoughts and wishes and stand up for your rights without violating the rights of others. One does this does this by using “I think,” “I feel,” and “I want ” statements. Here are some affirmations that will give you permission to express your anger in a healthy way.

 Affirmations for Giving Yourself Permission to Express Anger

I have a right to assert myself.

I can express my anger in a respectful way.

I express my anger without shaming the person.

I use “I” statements to express my displeasure.

I get angry at the behavior, rather than the person.

 

Affirmations Responding to Provocation 

Affirmations are a wonderful tool to work with anger when we feel provoked, because of this truth: Angry words and actions arise from angry thoughts and feelings. Here are specific affirmations you can say to yourself that can change your thinking if you are on the verge of losing it.

Before the Provocation

I can notice when I am becoming angry.

I can remember to count to ten and take deep breaths.

I can feel my anger and still stay in control.

I can take a break and stay in control.

I can talk things out with other people.

 

During the Provocation

I notice that I am becoming angry.

I am controlling my anger by changing my anger-triggering thoughts.

I am counting to ten.

I am remembering to breathe deeply.

I can take a break if I need to.

I am handling this well.

I am doing it!

 

After the Provocation

I was able to be angry without exploding.

I remembered to use my affirmations.

It feels great to handle my anger.

I’m proud of myself.

 

Getting It Right the Second Time

Unfortunately, we do not always express our anger skillfully. It is easy to have our buttons pushed by a child, spouse, parent, etc. Fortunately, when we lose control, we can  work to get it right the second time.  Here are some positive words that you can say to yourself:

Affirmations for Staying in Control the Second Time

I lost control and I am sorry.

Next time, I will notice that I am getting angry sooner.

I will choose a different way to respond. 

I will remember to stop, relax and think before I act.

I am responsible for my anger.

 

Affirmations for Making Amends

I can admit it when I make a mistake.

When I apologize to others, I help to lessen the affects of the anger.

I forgive myself for my unskillful behavior. 

I am working hard to stop this type of behavior.

Making mistakes and learning from them is part of being human.

I can do better next time.

 

I wish you the best in using affirmations to skillfully deal with anger. If you have any questions, you can email me at douglasbloch@gmail.com

 

Affirmations Helped an Olympic Skater to Land Her Jumps

Gracie GoldAs the Olympics have just concluded, I wanted to share a story on how affirmations helped an Olympic skater to land her jumps. As reported in the New York Times, it was the short program and Gracie Gold, the American national skating champion was warming up. She could feel her legs start to tingle before she skated, a hint that they might betray her. Then the nervousness began.

On Gracie’s opening jump, a triple-triple combination, she landed her first jump with difficulty. Then a thought rushed into her head. “Is this my Olympic moment?” she recalled saying to herself. “I’m going to be on my butt?” She quickly told herself no. She fought for and landed her second triple.

Then, during her double axel, her body was off balance as it flew through the air. Her negative self-talk  piped up again and tried to discourage her. But Gracie countered with a perfect affirmation. “I’ve come too far not to land this stupid double axel,” she told herself. “I’m going to land it with a smile.” And that was what she did.

Gold finished fourth on the short program and fourth overall. Not bad for her first Olympics.

Keeping a positive mental attitude was a key in the victories of other Olympic athletes. Elite athletes athletes know that their mental preparation and mental toughness are as important, if not more important, than their physical conditioning. Affirmations are a wonderful way to keep their “eyes on the prize” and keep those negative voices at bay. 

 

Best Affirmations for Quitting Smoking

One area that I would like to share with you has to do with affirmations for quitting smoking. I have worked with a number of smokers in the affirmations workshops I have taught.The simplest and most powerful nonsmoking affirmation is simply, “I am a nonsmoker.” But the real power of it comes with using the affirmation to uncover those unconscious beliefs that are keeping the person smoking.

In the page on this website called, Using Affirmations to Uncover Negative Beliefs, ” I introduced a two-column method that one can use to uncover any unconscious beliefs that may be blocking the expression of the affirmation. An aspiring professional golfer used this method to create an affirmation to heal her smoking habit. This is what occurred as she wrote down the affirmation and listened for the response

Conscious Mind:

I am a nonsmoker.

I am a nonsmoker.

 

I am a nonsmoker

I am a nonsmoker.

What Comes Up:

I’ll gain wait.

It’s one of the few pleasures I still have left.

It’s too hard to stop,

Smoking is an excusing that prevents me from giving 100% to life.

At this point, the woman bolted upright and exclaimed, “Where did that come from?!” Suddenly she realized that the real issue was not her smoking, but her fear of functioning at full capacity. To get to the root of that fear, she created a new affirmation, “I am now giving 100% to life.” This is what followed.

Conscious Mind:

I am now giving 100% to life.

I am now giving 100% to life.

I am now giving 100% to life..

What Comes Up:

I’m afraid I’ll fall short.

I’m not good enough.

Nothing I ever do is right.

When she finished, I asked her if she had ever been criticized as a child. “Everything I did was put down. I was never right.” she replied.  Here then, was the problem. Her fear of criticism and disapproval was the true cause of her lack of participation in life. Smoking was merely a symptom.

The significance of this type of breakthrough cannot be overstated.  Like peeling the layers of an onion, the affirmation-dialogue process allows one to go deeper and deeper  until the core of the problem is at last revealed.

I encourage you to use the affirmation-dialogue process  to  bring your most deeply held assumptions about life to the light of day where they can be transmuted into new beliefs. Here are some  nonsmoking affirmations you can use with this technique.

I am a nonsmoker.

I have successfully quit smoking.

My lungs are strong and vibrant.

I am breathing freely and deeply.

I love running (cycling, swimming, hiking, etc. Use any aerobic activity).

I am able to release old habits.

Every day, in every way,  I am  adopting new healthy habits.

Every day, in every way, I am getting better and better.

I am now living a smoke-free life.

I enjoy living a smoke-free life.

Best Affirmations for Practicing Gratitude

People often ask me what are the best affirmations for practicing gratitude. I answer by saying that thankfulness is one of the key ingredients for our progress along the path. So often we lose sight of what we have to be grateful for—our health, friends, material comfort, and most importantly, the gift of life itself. Practicing gratitude can be enhanced by affirmations.

Every situation in life, even the apparent tragedy, has a “silver lining.” Praising and giving thanks invokes this good and helps to bring it into being. Even painful experiences become bittersweet when we know that the universe is working out its perfect plan through them. Take a look at your life. Are you giving thanks for all your experiences? If you are reacting negatively to a specific situation, try a different approach.

Give thanks for the condition being just the way it is. Then observe what happens. As your attitude about the condition changes, the circumstances surrounding it will be transformed. Such is the miraculous power of giving thanks in all things. 

Affirmations

 1. I give thanks for every experience that I have.

 2. I say yes to the universe.

 3. It’s all unfolding perfectly.

 4. Every experience in my life brings me closer to God.

 5. In every aspect of my life, I am truly blessed.

 Words to Consider

When you learn to love hell, you will be in heaven.” -Proverb

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Creative Visualization Contributes to Gold Medal

 The technique of creative visualization and affirmations are closely related. One might even call them fraternal twins. While affirmations work by repeating the spoken word, creative visualization works by creating pictures in the mind that reflect the outcome that one is seeking.

Creative visualization is a technique that is employed by elite athletes in many sports. Recently, the technique was used in the 2014 Winter Olympics by coach Brian Orser, who coached figure skater Yuzuru Hanu of Japan to a gold medal in figure skating.

In an interview in the Toronto Star,  Orser said, “I’ve been visualizing my two skaters on the podium.  At 11:11am every day I close my eyes and I visualize that. I’ve been doing after two months.”

Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve. Whether it is affirming your good or visualizing it coming to pass, affirmations and creative visualization are wonderful tools to help you turn your dreams into a reality.