Douglas Bloch

Years ago someone  asked me for the best affirmation for a broken heart. My response was. “A broken heart is an open heart.”

There is no pain quite like that of a broken heart. The experience of loss in love wounds us like no other. In the midst of our pain, we cry out, wishing there were something to take the hurt away. But there is nothing. There is no cure for a broken heart except for that universal healer, time.

If there no cure for a broken heart, neither is there a guaranteed way to avoid having one. The more you risk, the more people you grow to love, the more you are going to lose. And yet, whenever your heart is broken, you receive a blessing —your broken heart becomes an open heart.

When we experience sadness and grief, something unexpected emerges. When we allow ourselves to be broken, a gentle transformation takes place. In the midst of the pain, we feel a softness and vulnerability that are truly beautiful. We become more accepting and open. Judgment and criticism are replaced by a compassion for others and an acceptance of life the way it is.

Think back to a time when your heart was broken. Remember what it was like to feel sadness and grief. Remember also, how your heart was opened. If you did not experience this opening then, see if you can allow it to happen now. By keeping your heart open and allowing it to experience both joy and pain, you will fulfill your highest destiny as a human being. Here are some affirmations that will help.

1. I open myself to love. 

 2. I am willing to risk myself in love. 

3. My vulnerability is my strength.

4. I open myself to loving and supportive relationships.

5. A broken heart is an open heart; when my heart breaks, I become more loving.

Words to Consider

“Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.”

Alfred Lord Tennyson

With all of the information and choices available  in the modern age, many of us experience time scarcity. It feels as if we can’t accomplish all that we would like to accomplish. Here is an affirmation that I use that reduces my anxiety about time and assures me that I will do what needs to get done:

” I always have enough time to do the things that spirit would have me do.”

Someone recently asked me for the best affirmations for overcoming fear and worry. All fears and worries come down to a single fear: the fear of not being able to cope. If people knew that that they could successfully cope or deal with any future situation, they would have little to fear. Therefore, the ideal affirmation to respond to this concern is: “I can handle it.”

Another affirmation that describes this faith in one’s ability to cope is, “I have the ability to create support for myself in my life.” In my book Words That Heal, I list these and other helpful affirmations that can foster your faith in your ability to cope with whatever comes your way.

Another way to deal with fear and worry is through cognitive-behavioral therapy. Cognitive-behavioral therapy is a psychotherapy that helps you to alter anxious self-talk and mistaken beliefs that give the body anxiety-producing messages. For example, saying to yourself, “What if I have an anxiety attack when I’m driving home?” will make it more likely that an attack will ensue. Overcoming negative self-talk involves creating positive counterstatements such as “I can feel anxious and still drive,” or “I can handle it.” What often underlies our negative self-talk is a set of negative beliefs about ourselves and the world. Examples of such mistaken beliefs are, “I am powerless,” “Life is dangerous,” and “It’s not okay to show my feelings.” Replacing these beliefs with empowering truths can help to heal the roots of anxiety 

Finally, I recommend monitoring diet and nutrition. Stimulants such as caffeine and nicotine can aggravate anxiety and leave one more prone to anxiety and panic attacks. Other dietary factors such as sugar, certain food additives and food sensitivities can make some people feel anxious. Seeing a nutritionally oriented physician or therapist may help you to identify and eliminate possible offending substances from your diet. He or she can also help you to research supplements and herbs (e.g., GABA, kava, B vitamins, chamomile and valerian teas) that are known to calm the nervous system.

 

 

I like using affirmations  to start the day on a positive note. What you are exposed to in your first waking moments has a profound impact your state of mind for the rest of the day.  This is because during the transition from sleeping to waking consciousness, we are in a “hypnagogic state”–a state of high suggestibility where the subconscious mind is wide open to suggestions. Therefore, whatever enters the mind at this time makes a deep impression, similar to the footprint left when someone steps on wet cement. 

Therefore, when you first arise, turn your thoughts to something that uplifts and inspires you. You may wish to say a positive affirmation, offer up a prayer, read an inspirational passage, or read your vision statement of wellness, Whatever positive spiritual food you feed yourself set the tone for the rest of the day.

Here is one that I like to use, which was made famous by Charles Filmore, the founder of the Unity Movement:

“I spring forth with a mighty faith to do all that is to be done by me today.” 

 

Here is today’s affirmation for prosperity:

“Divine Love always has, Divine Love always will, supply my every need.”

This affirmation was originally stated by Mary Baker Eddy, the founder of the Christian Science movement. I like to use it whenever thoughts of lack enter my mind. Repeating this affirmation helps to dispel those fears, because it reminds me that even in difficult times, I have never been without. Therefore, my supply is like to continue into the future.